this tuesday i went to hosp selayang to join the paediatric psychiatry clinic there...
follow a very nice doctor who's doing fellowship there...
we saw few patients...
mostly with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
in short, hyperactive kids la~
one of the patient that really give me a deep impression on her is a small artist...
she aged 8 years old..
but her thought was totally mature enough to be an adult who's probably 18?
she came from a broken family where her parent divorced alr..
her father get married again, and seems didn't really care bout her anymore
and since then she followed her mother...
but her mother get married again too...
somemore, have two kids with the 2nd husband...
she was now following her grandma living at grandma house.
i heard all these history 1st before the patient came in...
doctor discussed with us first before, she let the patient in..
so i was thinking this must be a very poor girl... pity her!
then doctor standed up and called her name to come in
u know wat...i get damned of the assumption that i've made few minutes ago
a long hair...-- seriously long until butt...straight silky one!
big eyes..--with long lashes, double eyelid, u'll fall in love by looking at her eyes!
small little face and little pink hair band on her tiny little head...
u'll sure get stunned when u met her!
she nicely dressed up herself as she's a little artist ~
but what's most shocking was the conversation that she'd with the doctor...
i'm seriously impressed
doctor: kenapa puteri rasa puteri nak jumpa doctor?
pt: sebab puteri rasa murung!
(plz la... when i was 8 years old, i dun even know wat's kemurungan lo!! i was playing with the dirt oni!)
doctor: oh, puteri rasa kenapa puteri jadi macam ni?
pt: sebab, puteri nak mummy balik...
(plz la... uish~ when i was 8 years old, i'm not sure if i know my mother's gonna leave me, i'll hve that kind of feelings onot? perhaps i dun even realised lo!)
doctor then draw a heart (i just share some important part that the doc had the conversation with the small little gal, or else, this's gonna be long!), then divide the heart into two, she conteng the half into black colour..left another half white.
doc: puteri beritahu doc, sekarang dlm hati puteri, mana satu lebih banyak? ( as she alr listed down, she knows that black colour include those revenge heart, all sorts of negative things. and white colour means those buat baik baik kepada orang lain, good qualities)
she pointed at the black colour and said: dulu ini, skrag putih!
she continued: saya nak jadi orang baik, taknak jadi orang yang tak baik.
as the doc ask how to become a good person, then she continued:
sentiasa bersyukur, berdoa kepada Allah, bersolat 5 kali satu hari...bla bla bla
she was tested by the doc to try to repeat the al-Quran..and indeed she knew it and repeat whole short scripture of the alQuran which i think is hebat enough!
then the doc ask her: kalao puteri diberi 3 permintaan, ( the doc actually tell the story of alladin-- the stupid blue colour thing when u rub at the cup, he will come out de...which i dunno call wat) apa puteri nak buat wish itu?
pt: nombor 1: saya nak mommy balik...
nombor 2: saya nak dapat nombor 1 dalam kelas
nombor 3: saya nak mama (grandma)jadi sihat ...
coz the grandma was suffering from diabetes, hypertension and high cholesterol..
and she knew it and she felt that she's the burden of her grandma!
(plz la, by that time 8 years old i dun even know what's sugar lo!! how come a 8 years old can know so many things?)
she was actually referred from another doc, previously diagnosed as major depressive disorder! - 8 years old gal! (ya, 8 years old, i'm emphasizing on the age!) suffering depression???!! 8 years old, i was just a little gal twisting ear of the boy who sat beside me lo!!
aduhai....seriously my tears were almost burst out everytime i heard she slowly tell us bout hers...
everytime she starred at the mother's pic, she'll cry alone in the room...the grandma notice it..
the mother will come to find her once a week ..
sometimes the husband oso dun allow the mother to come and visit her...
COME ON! SHE'S JUST A LITTLE GAL WHO'S LOOKING FOR THE LOVE FROM MOTHER!!
i felt really angry and empathy at the same time when the gal said that the mother actually being hitted by the bapa tiri...until face oso swollen..
she said that she wanted to protect her mother, she din know why her bapak tiri wanna married with her mother but at the same time still hitting her?
she was really matured until i felt very pity on her that she involved too much of the adult's problems..
she was really a victim after all..
at the end of the conversation oni we find out that, she's really a artist
she's now acting one drama that will be on screen later at astro
we were really shocked!
and she helped the magazine for photo session
she cheerfully give salam to all of us, even take photo with us..
due to confidentiality, i cannot show it on public ..
so if have chance, i'll show u her photo~
she's really a nice clever blessed girl, but at the same time, very pity...
as we can see here
the parent actually influence the children very much in their developing especially psychologically..
we seriously got to be very careful on who's the one we gonna choose to live together with in the future decades..
it's not a joke...it's not oni ur business
it's not just love
it's involving two families with some new lives that gonna come to this world..
dun make them feel that this world is ugly!
dun break their heart for u've no right to break a pure heart who just longing for ur love
i hate seriously on those parent who's not taking their responsibility on taking care of their own children..
at the same time i feel very grateful on my own life that i'm blessed to be born on a lovely family where my parent love each other...though they still quarrel some of the times..ha!
seriously every moment i heard those unfortunate one telling their story..
i feel very thankful to God that He put me in a good, calm and lovely family.. that i dun have to suffer from wat they are suffering now...
choose the one u love
love the one u choose
may God bless the girl in her future life
i hope u get my msg from here though i'm brain storming it since it happened 2 days ago, and i hardly to express my feelings into proper words...sorry for that!
cheahyin
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